I got permission to write about what I alluded to yesterday. Some of you might have known my friend as well. Kary, from: http://myfarmhousekitchen.blogspot.com/ died this past Saturday. Kary and I became the best blogging friends over the years. We shared a love of our Teddy's, Halloween, Fall and cooking. We emailed back and forth so much each day it became just the natural thing to do. We almost burned up the wires watching the Casey Anthony trial. Last September, she was diagnosed with bladder cancer. As much as the two of us talked, she never wanted to talk much about her illness. She made very light of it and when I asked questions, she always gave me vague answers. She did chemo,surgery and more chemo. She said everything was going fine. We had both started decorating for Halloween and I was sure she was on the road to recovery. I last heard from her on Friday when she told me she was running to the store and would write as soon as she returned. After a couple days, I opened my computer to send her a "give her hell" text about scaring me by not writing. Can you imagine my shock when I saw an email from her husband, John, telling me she died. I am still having a lot of trouble wrapping my head around the fact that she is gone. I feel like someone has shot a hole through me. I honestly had no clue how sick she was. John has agreed to leave her blog up in case you want to stop by and leave condolences. Right now, condolences are about the only thing that can make anyone who loved her feel better. I sure am going to miss my friend forever. If there is one good thing I can say, she died at home with her beloved John, Teddy, and her kitties by her side.
beautiful sign. xo
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
Hugs to you,
I hope John can find some comfort in knowing how much she was loved, even by people who never met her.
I am thinking of you-
White Spray PAint
I just figured she got busy with other things. I had exchanged a few emails with her when she lost Buddy and then when she was getting Teddy. I tried to help her because I too had lost my soulmate dog. And then she got Teddy. I was so happy for her. Last year when a blogger friend unexpectedly lost her little Dachshund and she was spiraling down into depression, I contacted Kary and she exchanged emails with my friend and helped her through it. I am just shocked.
I didn't know her well but what I did know was a HUGE kind dear heart.
This is so sad but thank you for sharing.
Kary and I not only posted on each other's blog, but occasionally wrote each other little notes. I know how much she adored you, and cherished your friendship.
Months ago, when I asked you if Kary was ok, since she hadn't written, or blog posted, I felt in my gut that something was wrong, but when you told me that everything was ok, she was just taking a break, I respected that, and her privacy. And, I don't fault you for keeping her journey private. You were being the best kind of friend possible. It wasn't your story to tell.
Selfishly, I wish that she had let all of us who were friends with her know, so that we could have sent healing energies and prayers her way, to help her, but I also know that not everyone is comfortable with that kind of attention, and prefer to face their battles quietly, and personally.
As for her not letting you know the extent of her illness, either she was continuing to think positive, that she WAS going to beat this horror, or, that she looked at you as her beacon of light in the middle of dark seas, and didn't want to dim it in any way. You were her respite, her element of lightness and fun. .or normality when the rest of her world was in turmoil.
Unbeknownst to you, you were giving her the greatest gift you could have given her. It was not within your power to make her well, but you did the next best thing by being there for her, making her smile, laugh, and sharing your daily journeys. Giving her the love of good friendship.That is what she wanted, and needed, and you gave it to her in abundance. Keep that in your heart to bring you comfort.
Thank you for sharing this tragic news with us. She was in my thoughts frequently, and I continued to wonder. . .now knowing doesn't bring me comfort, but understanding. She is a very special lady, and will be missed by many more than she ever imagined.
Comforting hugs, my friend
I followed her blog too and missed her posts, but didn't know she was that sick. She stopped writing a year ago, but she was still on my blog list. I'm so sad to hear this.
My thoughts are with you, her family and friends.
I don't know how I missed this,
I am sort of looking for Kary today, I drove by her old house here where there were so many happy times.
The park where we had picnics, her windows where halloween lights glowed and wonderful old pumpkins shined out,
all her beautiful trees and roses that she planted. everything is reminding me of her today.
I'm so glad you were always there for her.